It’s unfortunate how little the public health system allows me to teach about love because it’s fucking necessary. The resources and tools aren’t there because big funders don’t see enough return on interest (thanks capitalism). The research is there, it’s just not strong enough. You see, this is how systemic oppression works. It denies access to innovative and progressive funding because it’s more concerned about staying in power than supporting innovation and iteration. But outside of all that nonsense, ask some pretty simple questions: How do you talk about negotiating safer sex without talking about connection, emotions, and pleasure? How do you promote accessing sexual healthcare without talking about systemic oppression, trust, support networks, and collective healing? (Short answer, you don’t.) They don’t want to listen, so we need to make them by working smarter, more strategically, and with a focus on our connective tissue. We care about love. Most people do. It’s about time we leverage it. #SexEducation #PublicHealth #ReproductiveJustice #SystemsThinking •
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@estherperelofficial Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery.
Love likes to shrink the distance that exists between me and you, while desire is energized by it. If intimacy grows through repetition and familiarity, eroticism is numbed by repetition. It thrives on the mysterious, the novel, and the unexpected. Love is about having; desire is about wanting. An expression of longing, desire requires ongoing elusiveness. It is less concerned with where it has already been than passionate about where it can still go. But too often, as couples settle into the comforts of love, they cease to fan the flame of desire. They forget that fire needs air.
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